Here are my weaknesses — what are yours?

This is a short post so I would urge you to read it through to the end even if you think you've heard it before.

Part of creating a healthy life is taking a candid look at your weaknesses. Throw out your bias, let down your defenses and confront them head on. Because once you've taken inventory of your weakness, the awareness alone can help you overcome them. Often, even the simple act of acknowledging and claiming your weaknesses can lead to a happier outlook on life — not because you're happy that they're there but because you know who you are and that you're not alone.

If you're not familiar with personality tests such as Myers-Briggs or Enneagram, you can quickly grasp a deep understanding of your personality by taking a simple test. Based on your answers to a series of questions, you'll be given a detailed description of your dominant personality including strengths, weaknesses, relationships, tendencies, functions and more. You can take the personality tests for free, here: Myers-Briggs | Enneagram

Seeing the things you struggle with written down in list form right there in front of you can be quite a punch in the gut. It's a very vulnerable experience because there's no getting around them, ignoring them or shoving them deeper down. They're there. So, in the interest of walking the walk, I'll let you read all about me (generally speaking).

Here are my results, weaknesses and all...

Myers-Briggs — ENFJ, The Protagonist
Enneagram — Type 2, The Helper

If you're anything like me, as you read through the tough parts, you'll find yourself excusing, justifying or denying. And you might not struggle with a particular weakness at all, in which case, way to go You! But don't be afraid to be honest with yourself. And maybe in those moments of raw vulnerability you'll learn a little something about those mysterious emotions that bubble up every once in a while. The ones you usually shove back down and try to forget. Maybe you'll finally understand why you felt threatened by your friend's innocent remark or why you find it so hard to say "no" when you so desperately want to. Though it sounds like a terrible thing to understand, the truth is surprisingly liberating.

One final thought — you're not alone. We'll all broken people who struggle with our own unique issues. And while we might be tempted to judge others for theirs, a reflection on our own is a beautiful reminder that we're all fighting to be better versions of ourselves. And in the mean time, the only solution is to love each other through it.